Tuesday, April 5, 2011

Confinement Lady In Malaysia

Seeking help from a confinement lady during the confinement period is a norm for Chinese in Malaysia.

Some mommy who are more fortunate will have the help of their mother,in laws or female relatives to help during the confinement period while some who were less fortunate might have to do it all by themselves or engaged the help of confinement centers that provide full service or partial service (for example, you can opt for ordering confinement meals send to your doorstep instead of having a confinement lady staying with you for the whole month and helping you with the cooking and baby).

During my pregnancy with Little Moo Moo, my EDD falls within the Chinese New Year period. The cost of hiring a confinement lady will be double the normal market price hence I hire a part time maid instead to help my mom preparing all the confinement needs.This time round, i had decided to hire a confinement lady as my mom is aging and it hurts to see her preparing and doing so many things during my last confinement.

It's always not easy to find a good confinement lady. My friends had advise me to engage a confinement lady as early as possible and if possible straight after the pregnancy confirmation (that means when pregnancy is still around 7-12 weeks) to prevent disappointment as many of the good ones will usually be taken up fast.

For the past days, i searched the web, visited parenting forums and talked to friends and i managed to gather a list of confinement lady with good reputations among forumers who are available throughout Malaysia. The list is as follows:-

Confinement Lady (2010: market price RM2800 – RM3500 + 2 angpaos for start/end work)

1)Aunty Ming Zhu – 012-6401355
2)月明– 016-7308823
3)Q Jie – 016-3322599
4)Wendy Lai (Subang Jaya) – 012-4248558
5)Aunty Irene (KL) – 012-2159936 / 012-6531686
6)Ngan Jie (Kampar) – 016-5985463
7)Madam Sie – 0164946303
8)Madam Tay (Melaka) – 012-6143901
9)Lan Kie – 016-2576132
10)Mui Che – 017-3944948
11)Madam Pang (Melaka) – 012-9722368
12)Lan Cheh (Wangsa Manju) – 03-41495217
13)Kam Cheh (Shah Alam) – 016-2665336
14)Aunty Susan – 012-4918560
15)Mrs Ngiam – 019-7580034<
16)Lan Yee – 016-9188648
17)Yook Jie – 012-6872988
18)Chin Jia – 016-6566842
19)Aunty Er Mei – 012-6076520

I hope this list will be useful for all expected mummy. Please try to contact each of them and talk to them personally. Try to ask them about their age, personality, believes...etc and engaged one that suits you.

26 comments:

  1. Hi Wen, are you able to contact 8)Madam Tay (Melaka) – 012-6143901? I already booked her during CNY, but i'm unable to contact her for more than 1 week. The operator keep saying :"Sorry, please try again later". My wife on 38 weeks now, so it could be anytime but we still cannot reach her. Let me know if you know any information. Thanks

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  2. Sorry for the late reply. I am quite new in blogging and had not notice your message until now! How's everything getting on? Your wife should have deliver by now. Hope that everything is fine.

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  3. Hi Wen,

    Would like to check with you if you managed to get a confinement lady during your confinement period or you engaged help from your mother/mother-in-law? I am currently in my 18th week of pregnancy and am desperating looking for a confinement lady. Mind to show with me your confinement lady name and her contact number?

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    1. Dear Joey,

      I engaged Q-Jie (No.3 in the list above) as my confinement lady. Do give her a call and see whether she is available. Good luck and enjoy being pregnant!

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    2. Hi Wen!
      Just want to check about your experience with Q Jie during your confinement? Is she good?

      Jeanie.

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    3. I am quite satisfied with Q jie.

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  4. do you know any of the above is good? i like someone who can emphasize hygiene and support breastfeeding.

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    1. Aunty Susan – 012-4918560
      Sim Yee - 019-252 1118

      Call and talk to them personally. Both are good in their own way...

      I wrote my experiences with both them in http://khongfamily.com/blog/?p=163#comment-3409

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  5. Dear Wen,

    I am a chinese muslim and will be having my 2nd baby in December 2012. I would like to have the benefits of the chinese confinement service but with halal preparation. Do you have any advices for me? In my 1st pregnancy, I did not have any confinement at all and this time.. I really want to go through the whole confinement month.

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    1. I'm also a Chinese muslim and looking to have Chinese confinement with halal preparation. Please let me know if you do find one. I'm due on March 2013.

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    2. Sorry. I don't know anyone doing halal preparation.

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  6. Hi
    I have a very bad experience with this aunty. Please take note

    Beware of this confinement Aunty Ah Yoke
    016 3328882 from Kepong

    Last year, ard May, I paid this lady RM1000 deposit for her service during CNY 2012. She charges me RM5400 as she said, my confinement period is during CNY period, and requested for a BIG ANGPOW and I agreed. Then 2 weeks before my due date, in Jan 2012, I called her again to remind her of my due date. I called her few times and she didn’t answer, and I started to get worried. But finally she picked up the called and told me she is in Australia and cannot come back. Imagine how worried I was – I might be delivering anytime, and yet, she didn’t bother to inform me, that she will be working in Australia and wont be working for me !!!! Nevertheless, I wasn’t angry at her, as I know what is the point. I asked her nicely, how about me now….as I am due anytime. She said, she would recommend her friend to me, and I took the friend’s number and called.

    Her friend then told me, she was informed by this Auntie Ah Yoke, I would pay her RM5800. So I was surprised, and I told her, Aunty Ah Yoke only charge me RM5400 and I’ve paid RM1000 deposit, so I would only need to pay RM4400. She disagreed. So I called Aunty Ah Yoke in Australia again – she angrily scolded me (though I didn’t know what’s the reason) – WHO THE HELL WANT TO WORK FOR YOU, IF YOU DON’T PAY RM6800 DURING CNY….YOU PAID RM1000 DEPOSIT, SO NOW, RM5800 TO BE PAID TO THE NEW AUNTIE!!

    I felt like I was being conned!!! So I went around like headless chicken to fine other confinement aunties contact and I managed to engage one, last minute, from my friend’s contact. I think I called at least 30 confinement aunties that time, to secured 1. Since I didn’t engage the service of Auntie Ah Yoke’s friend, I called he again, to tell her that how is she going to pay me back that RM1000 deposit. She said she would pay me back when she is back to Malaysia, which would be around March. So I agreed and didn’t chase her for that. Then come end of March, I called her again, and she didn’t want to pick up when she saw my h/p #. Then I used my house number, and she picked up. Again, she got angry and told me, she wont pay me back, as she was helping me to look for new replacement and she was acting as an agent and that’s her agent fee. Halo!!!! What logic is this….!! Then I reminded her again, I didn’t use her friend’s service., and she finally angrily, told me not to chase her again, as she would pay me back in 2 installment. I’ve been waiting and waiting and checking my bank a/c, now it’s May, I don’t see any sign, and she refused to answer my phone calls.

    I’ve now decided, to broadcast her in forum, so that other mothers will not fall into the same trap as me. I think she has no intention to refund me my money in the first place, she is just buying time….Basically collecting deposits and “fly aeroplane” last minute. As I only have her contact number, no other details, I could do anything to her. But at least, I hope other ppl are aware of this lady and do not engage her services.

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  7. Thanks Wen for this blog and other feedback replies. I am at 7th weeks of pregnancy now, does anyone of you know a good CL that can handle twins and is very experienced and supportive in breastfeeding? I noted Moon recommended Aunty Susan and Sim Yee who are supportive in BF. I will try that out and ask if they are okay with twins. Meanwhile, if you have any more info / contact, i will appreciate that.
    Thanks!

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  8. I wish to warn all mothers to be here to be careful in engaging the use of confinement lady. My sister have one who's real name is Ngan Jie (Kampar) – 016-5985463. At the very first day, she show her boss attitude, my mom ask her to cook but she say you cook first !!! WTH are this lady talking ???
    2nd - she talking volume is fuxking damn loud. my neighbor also complain. and she does not shows respect !!!
    3rd and FINAL IS THE MOST IMPORTANT !!! her hand had a sticky gum !!! she will steal all your thing and food !!! yeah food !!! she will keep the best part for her self...B4 u eat, she will eat 1st and wait all people sleep she will take your worthy belonging such as abalone and your drink - "hennesy"
    we caught her on the last day b4 she go back. we ask her to open all her bag and show us but she not dare to open and scare...

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  9. Hi ladies,
    I have just completed my confinement with Madam Sie. She can do the basic stuff,but if you plan to engage her, be prepared to deal with her following habits:
    1. Asking you to buy her a few bottles of softdrinks, a particular brand of coffee, newspapers, takeaway breakfasts like a packet of hokkien mee, char koay teow etc. She consumes about 3 big bottles of softdrinks in a month, newspapers to help her check her Magnum and Toto numbers. On top of that, she will ask you to buy a lot of stuff which you already have (baby napkins, babyhankerchiefs and I ended up having 3 dozens when I finally felt well after a week).
    2. Asking things from you to take home. I figured that she had a strategy in cooking. She puts in little amount for your consumption and at the end of the confinement you have leftovers. So, she conveniently asks for the ingredients to be taken home. Personally, I feel that she is greedy. She even asks my neighbour for a plant to take home.
    3. Her cooking is so plain that you don't need a confinement lady to cook for you. You can even do it on your own. For the record, I have all the chinese herbs and ginger bought for my confinement. Unfortunately, all i get is steamed fish with ginger, soya pork with ginger, ginger chicken, pork belly soup, pig trotter and black vinegar, fried vegetables, dang guai chicken, pepper chicken. Imagine eating those repeated for a month! I am sure your mum in-law could cook that.
    4. She brings with her a photo album of the babies that she has taken care of. Those were old photos and she hasn't got any good comments lately by looking at the old the photos.
    5. She is very talkative and talks very loudly and disturbs the peace in the house, which mummies need during confinement. Don't entertain her conversations because she will 'climb up your head' once she knows you are an OK person to talk to.. like asking for this and that and being sarcastic (not hack hei, in cantonese) once getting to know you.She can emotionally torture you by saying things which are not true about you and you know it. You just keep quiet to end the unpleasant conversation, I ended up a week (fell sick) in the hospital and got better rested than being at home. Again, I figured that that was her strategy to get you out of the house so that she has less work to do at home.
    6. She likes to budge in your conversations with your hubby and your personal time with hubby and baby.
    7. Always hinting on how good her previous employers were, i.e. angpao RM200, bringing her out for spaghetti, giving her hampers for chinese new year. Even to ask her to go to the market to pick up pre-ordered produce costs something, i.e. a breakfast treat. I am sure she is expecting all those. But I just listened and acted dumb.

    Future employers need to know these habits to deal with her material greed. Or maybe I was tired and sick of her that I decided to buy and give her everything she asks for..for the sake of my baby.

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  10. Hi

    My confinement period was just over and I should say I had a very comfortable and stress free confinement period. I engage the services from Confinement Care Malaysia (www.confinementcaremalaysia.com) and they provided me a very prompt service. The CN they recommended to me was good and highly responsible, clean and neat. The best of all is they do not charge agent fees. I think whoever looking for a confinement nanny can consider using the services from this agency. You will have hassle free pregnancy and confinement period.

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    1. Hi Jesslyn, Im also about to engage CN service with www.confinementcaremalaysia.com.. but I am a little worried.
      May I know what is the process after transferring the deposit? Will they describe the nanny's profile to you?

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  12. Help!!! I'm looking for my confinement lady - Wong Kim Lan ( Lan Jie - 0162576132 ) who have booked for this coming July, 2015. However, I unable to contact her for almost three weeks. Please left a message to me if you know about her. Thanks in advance.

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  13. Anyone in need of CN can contact 0165575007

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  14. Anyone in need of CN can contact 0165575007

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  15. Anyone in need of CN can contact 0165575007

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  16. Anyone in need of CN can contact 0165575007

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  17. Anyone in need of CN can contact 0165575007

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  18. Hi,

    Adjoining 2 Corner House for Rent suitable for confinement Centre at Taman Wawasan Puchong

    9 rooms
    6 baths
    Koi pool
    Nice Garden
    2 living hall
    2 kitchens
    Newly renovated 6 month ago

    Please contact Kelvin @ 012-2106007 for viewing apointment.



    Thanks

    Kelvin

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  19. Hi,

    Adjoining 2 Corner House for Rent suitable for confinement Centre at Taman Wawasan Puchong

    9 rooms
    6 baths
    Koi pool
    Nice Garden
    2 living hall
    2 kitchens
    Newly renovated 6 month ago

    Please contact Kelvin @ 012-2106007 for viewing apointment.



    Thanks

    Kelvin

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